Couples Therapy
Rediscover your connection.
Before coming to see me, couples are feeling tired of having the same conflicts again and again.
They feel lost and as though they are at an impasse. They feel the trust is broken and totally disconnected. They don’t know how to fix things. They feel angry, they do not feel listened to, and they feel resentful.
If this sounds like your experience,
I can help.
Reasons clients come to see me.
Communication Difficulties
Conflict may be arising. You may often feel triggered by your partner which leads to bickering, disrespectful language, blaming, anger and frustration. There is defensiveness and criticism and ultimately you find yourself not feeling heard.
Infidelity
Infidelity can be a traumatic event in the life of a couple. You may feel as though your life has been turned upside down. Many extremely difficult emotions are arising and you may not be sure where to turn or how to move forward.
Difficulty Connecting
You may have noticed that you have been less kind to each other. You no longer feel like a team, even forgetting why you fell in love in the first place. You may feel that you are growing apart; one or both of you tend to pull away or keep to yourself. Your desires and needs are not aligning.
Difficulty with Intimacy
With busy schedules it can be hard to find time to connect intimately and physically. You may find that your needs for sexual intimacy are misaligned.
We will start by getting a clear understanding of how you and your partner relate to each other, the patterns that have developed between you, and what is important to you both individually and as a couple.
An initial focus will be on de-escalating the pattern that is keeping you stuck and creating safety within the relationship. We will then move in to focusing on creating a space where you are able to ask for your emotional needs to be met and where your partner is able to receive the request; creating further connection.
I work primarily from an Emotion Focussed Couples Therapy approach.
You can expect to :
Have a safe space created for you to access emotional experiencing necessary for connection.
Learn to truly hear each other.
Learn to regulate and experience emotions necessary for healing and intimacy.
Discover, understand and shift patterns that are keeping you stuck.
Be supported in healing relationship wounds and traumas.